It’s good to have friends. Life would be a lot more boring without them, that’s for sure. But we want friends who make us feel good, don’t we?
My son and I talk about our friends a lot; they’re really important to us. He’s made some really good friends as school, and he said this about what makes a good friend; “They should treat me with respect and kindness, and also understand about personal space.” He also thinks that applies to him being a good friend to others as well.
Respect and kindness are so important, aren’t they? We all want to be treated like that. I’d also say that a sense of humour is really important – you and your friends should always be able to laugh – and a friend should also be someone you can talk to about absolutely anything.
While we’re on the subject, how many friends is enough? Have you noticed how some people seem to have loads of friends whilst other people are quite happy with just a couple? There’s no right or wrong answer, by the way; I just want to make you think. People have different “circles” of friends, people they know from different parts of their lives.
Let me give you an example. I’ve got friends from places I’ve worked, from hobbies I’ve had, and by being introduced to people by other friends. It’s a bit of a hotch-potch, really, and it’s lovely; I see some friends more often than others, but that doesn’t mean I like some people less – it just means that life has been busy. I often wish I had more time in my week just to more of my friends! Don’t we all?
Friends are important in our lives, because they can make us happy and confident and cared for. If someone in our life doesn’t make us feel good, it’s okay not to spend time with that person any more. You deserve to be treated well, as much as you should treat other people the same.
Friendships are brilliant; you can share interests in music, sport, books, maths … well, anything. Your friends can even teach you things. One of my friends loves making clothes, for example; I don’t have a clue how to do anything like that, but I’ve learnt a bit about it because she’s taught me. And yes, you can be friends with boys and girls, and don’t let anyone tell you different.
You’ll get different friends all through your life, and the friends you make now at school are really important. Who knows, you might still know some of them in thirty or forty years! How great would that be?